Patty Smyth and Don Henley sang "Sometimes love just ain't enough" and you scoff, unable to imagine what it is that love can't surmount. And there are those couples that seem made for each other, those that shine in each other's company, those who make you reinforce your belief that love IS enough.
And then comes the stark realization that your beliefs were wrong. You watch as they go their separate ways. You watch as he drinks himself to sleep at nights, and she gives up on her ambitions. Watch as they try to find other loves, feeling resentful of the other persons in their lives. Because, well, when seemingly perfect couples break up, it makes you question your own relationship, and you hold on tighter to what you have because it could just as well might be you, constantly looking back over your shoulder at a love you can't quite let go of.
You know she doesnt really love the new guy she's with and that, nice as he is, he's not the one for her. You try to be happy for her, but in the end you grow indifferent. Then she breaks up with the interim guy and you breath a silent sigh of relief- you so want her to be happy again. You watch as she slowly comes back to life and you're almost resentful of her old love for finding someone new, and then, out of the blue, she tells you about a new guy she's met. You're skeptical at first- would anything ever live up to what she once had? You pray this one's good for her and you warn her to be cautious. You don't want her to get hurt again.
But she decides not to heed your warnings and she leaps into it - bold, impetuous, impulsive and ecstatic. And you rejoice because she has proven you wrong. Its early days yet, but he seems alright. Most of all, SHE is alright. More than alright. Here's to love the second time around- more precious than the first for taking such a loong effing time to come around!
And so you wait impatiently for her to friggin come online, so that she could fill you in on all the details already!!
This one's for you, 'D! Sorry you have such intrusive friends who insist on feeling every emotion that your'e feeling. Muah, my leetle love. May you love and always be loved!!!
And then comes the stark realization that your beliefs were wrong. You watch as they go their separate ways. You watch as he drinks himself to sleep at nights, and she gives up on her ambitions. Watch as they try to find other loves, feeling resentful of the other persons in their lives. Because, well, when seemingly perfect couples break up, it makes you question your own relationship, and you hold on tighter to what you have because it could just as well might be you, constantly looking back over your shoulder at a love you can't quite let go of.
You know she doesnt really love the new guy she's with and that, nice as he is, he's not the one for her. You try to be happy for her, but in the end you grow indifferent. Then she breaks up with the interim guy and you breath a silent sigh of relief- you so want her to be happy again. You watch as she slowly comes back to life and you're almost resentful of her old love for finding someone new, and then, out of the blue, she tells you about a new guy she's met. You're skeptical at first- would anything ever live up to what she once had? You pray this one's good for her and you warn her to be cautious. You don't want her to get hurt again.
But she decides not to heed your warnings and she leaps into it - bold, impetuous, impulsive and ecstatic. And you rejoice because she has proven you wrong. Its early days yet, but he seems alright. Most of all, SHE is alright. More than alright. Here's to love the second time around- more precious than the first for taking such a loong effing time to come around!
And so you wait impatiently for her to friggin come online, so that she could fill you in on all the details already!!
This one's for you, 'D! Sorry you have such intrusive friends who insist on feeling every emotion that your'e feeling. Muah, my leetle love. May you love and always be loved!!!
6 comments:
I think when we romanticize love over much, finding that one true soul mate is tough nuts but when you get really hard-nosed practical about it, it is possible to find happiness with practically anyone. You just need to get into the proper frame of mind.
And I think I know the actors in your story so I'd like to say a great big kudos to your friend!
Sorry, that should read players in your script. And you write beautifully about the constantly looking back over your shoulder at a love you can't quite let go of. I'm in there and much as I'm hoping your friend's good fortune rubs off on me too, I somehow don't quite dare to reach for the moon..
Im probably the only remaining person hanging on to that belief, the belief or rather the hope that someday somehow, they would ride together once again on that bike we'd nicknamed "theirs". I stubbornly hold onto the memory, refusing to accept reality but there's a little part of me that cheers her on as she revels in this different kind of love. DD game on!LOL :)
U r a born writer Kuks...made me cry literally!!! Muackiessss Lavvvv uuu lotssssssss...
@Calliopia: In a way, yes, you can make yourself fall for someone and familiarity does breed habitual attachment. And then there are those people with whom you dont have to try at all.. Here's hopin you meet such a person :)
@James: I have mixed feelings about this :D I think Im more in love with who they once were, than what they could be again.
@Di: I trahbelh lutuk, zahpuiawm, but thanks anyway, laviu bek
Aww you girls seem to share such a special friendship envy ya'll! Can identify with every.single.line of this post :)
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